Consulting on privacy and information security and the appropriate use of information gathered in our new technologically driven world, she is the Data Diva™. Darity knows data. She consults with technology companies on how, when and why you need to protect the information you gather from everyone.
Speaker: Darity is a national speaker on a wide variety of topics from “Privacy 101:How to Protect Yourself and Your Clients” to “Enlightened Leadership: Managing Diversity in the Workplace” to “The Shift is Over, The World Did Not End…Now What?”
She is also a featured speaker for the Real Estate Speaker’s Bureau.
Attorney at Law: Darity is an attorney and entrepreneur. She is the founder of Privacy Solutions and the Lotus Law Center in San Diego, California. As an attorney, she has been incorporating integrity, caring and compassion into over 35 years of business law and strategy. She has specialized in privacy and security, with expertise in the real estate industry.
By Darity Wesley
How many times have you heard the saying by that famous philosopher Anonymous, “Where there is a will, there is a way.”? Probably more times than you can count. The reason this ancient truism lingers on through the centuries is that it can be applied as powerfully today as a millennia ago.
As we like to define our terms so that we are all clear on the meaning of words, I can hardly not do it with the word “Willpower” even though we pretty much have that down for a meaning. So, for definition sake, the Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Willpower as “the ability to control yourself.” It goes further and says it is “strong determination that allows you to do something difficult.” Again what we are talking about here is all about having strong determination.
The tricky part about using the powerful tool of your will is knowing what it truly is. Will is different than want. Notice the difference when you think, “I will do this.” as opposed to “I want to do this.” Will has more force behind it and the force of willpower can be virtually unstoppable.
You may or may not have learned yet that part of the illusion to bust with your willpower is that of being a slave to and directed only by your moods, your thoughts, things that are happening to you, etc. These are examples of ‘wants’. It is only by the exercise of your power to change that you can take your life in your hands and use this knowledge to enhance and take charge rather than passively allowing yourself, consciously or unconsciously, to blame others, circumstances, your parents, your teachers, anyone other than understanding that You and You alone are indeed in charge of your life, with the exercise of your willpower and following your Spirit, that still small voice within.
Applying your willpower in your professional world takes some deep digging to determine what your goals really are in this area of your life. Yes, many things may be nice, or you may want some aspects of your job to transform, but what are you really willing to take charge of to change? Have you been thinking about changing companies for a long time? Are you willing to take the steps to do so? Are you ready to spend more time with your family and you are currently working long hours and are often on the road? Are you willing to open a dialogue with your firm to make that shift?
You will know if you have come to a decision in your life that takes willpower to achieve when it feels exhilarating to envision the outcome and a bit daunting to get there.
Remember, willpower is about strong determination. You need to have your emotions behind what you are seeking to change for your will to engage its full power. Once you have your will and emotions on board, then make a step by step plan of how to get to where you are headed. You will find that once you take the first step onto the path of your plan, the momentum will carry you to your desired outcome. You may not get there exactly as you had envisioned, but after all, if there is your will involved, there is a way.
Excellent Business Relationships
By Darity Wesley
Most of us know that in a world where many products are of similarly high quality and similar price, the person with whom you have the best relationship is, generally, the one with whom you are going to do business. In your personal world, the people you choose to spend the most time with are the ones you with whom you have the best exchanges.
These reciprocal relationships cultivate mutual flourishing, which is a key element of my business philosophy and a component of my core ethics. It is an approach to business with an attitude of cooperation and expectation of benefit for all parties involved. It supports success and sees unexpected challenges as an opportunity for growth through teamwork. Mutual flourishing allows strategic alliances (people helping other people) to prosper. This is the kind of support that propels us to success. And guess what? The best and most time honored way to engage this model is through excellent contracts.
From my perspective, a good contract, which could be as simple as a letter of agreement, is the glue which holds mutual flourishing in place. Having terms and agreements stated in writing takes much of the stress off relationships when all parties know who is to do what, when and what is expected. You want to be sure that who is taking what risks and who is responsible for it is overtly stated. You can learn much about the future of a relationship by reading a contract. Is it clear, can you understand the words, is it one-sided rather than mutually beneficial, does it cover all the issues? You will quickly be able to determine whether the companies or people you are partnering with have the same high ethical standards as you by the reading of their basic contract.
Exceptional contracts are essential to excellent business relationships. It’s glue. In my years as a business lawyer, I have spent countless hours creating, reviewing and negotiating contracts. As a conscious lawyer, I have noticed that many of us in small to medium sized businesses could benefit from contract work with a qualified attorney.
Creating and maintaining excellent business relationships means staying aware and alert to sustaining the trust and integrity you have created by saying what you mean and meaning what you say. How you do what you do is important. Whether you realize it or not, people do look to you as an example. Understanding and honoring the importance of contracts in business relationships reflects business maturity. Business maturity leads to mutually beneficial experiences and we all like those mutually beneficial experiences, don’t we? Have a great month!
By Darity Wesley
We are in a transition period in the business world, in my opinion, from best business practices to truly authentic business practices. Best practices are used in nearly every industry and professional discipline to encourage business self-regulation and ever improving standards of excellence. These practices helped bring the business world to new heights in the last decade. Now I see the beginning of a transition to a new level in business that incorporates those measurable best practices with something personal and more intangible- consciousness.
As you may have noticed, we are in a time of change in our society. As responsible business people, there is much we can contribute to the successful flow of change in the world. How? By the way in which we conduct business. I believe that to be the best you can be, it is essential to live a life that is authentic for you in all aspects of your life – including in business. What that means in a day to day way, is that you take each day as an opportunity to conduct your business in the same manner in which you approach other aspects of your life- with compassion and consideration.
Truly authentic business practices encourage the pursuit of success as life-affirming work – work that considers the triple bottom line of people, planet and profit within an inextricable web of relationships. There are ways to make even the most intricate business situation work out to enhance that triple bottom line, even if that solution is not ‘the way we have always done it’. It can mean taking the risk of expressing your true ethics even though they may go against the grain of business as usual. To do so takes courage, however to not do so can create inner conflict. The truly authentic way to approach each aspect of your life, including your professional world, is as a planetary citizen looking out for the betterment of all in this generation and those generations that follow. What will you create as your legacy?
Creating and maintaining excellent business relationships is certainly a means through which you can practice truly authentic business practices. Staying aware and alert that how you do what you do is important. People are looking to you as an example. Make sure that example reflects your core values. From the legal perspective it means that your contracts state your intentions and agreements clearly. By contracts I mean of the agreements you make in the business world- your governing documents, employee manual, privacy and security policies, and business to business arrangements.
I encourage you to engage your business life as though each decision and action you take today impacts the future of this planet in some small or large means. Because it does. What kind of world do you want to leave to your grandchildren?
By Darity Wesley
As our professional lives grow and change with these times, it is becoming a business imperative to re-create as well as create many of the technical and legal aspects of our work world.
Other topics to consider are policies in regard to access to any cloud-based sharing platforms for both non-local sharing and storage, and data disaster recovery programs. Additionally, you may need to review any contracts and data, technology or software licenses to make sure they reflect the current legal standards.
Yes there is much to consider. It seems like a daunting task to a business of any size, from a sole proprietor to a large company, to review and potentially re-create or create all of these documents. However, if you approach these updates as a creative process, one that energizes your work world, then you will be poised to enjoy the fruits of your labor. You will have created the means to refresh your professional world in our vibrant business climate which ultimately enhances your success.
While you are in the process of determining what needs to be re-created from the legal perspective, be sure to take advantage of this opportunity to review where you stand with your work world. What do you love about your job? What inspires you to go to the office (even if it is a home office) every day? If the answer is money, you may want to think about how you can get more out of your professional life. For most people these days, money is not enough by itself. How can you craft your work to help you feel as though you are participating in a creative process? Sometimes something as simple as going to a networking event or taking a professionally enriching class is just the ticket to revitalize your creative spark.
Don’t take my word for it. Give it a try. Stay aware and alert for opportunities to enhance your professional world which may inspire and support your creative genius in whatever your job role!
Ever Go Together?
By Darity Wesley
Sometimes in our business world, we may feel like we have been injured and traumatized, either from outside the organization or from within the organization. From outside of your business or work environment, the damage could come from a lawsuit, negative press, false claims against your product or service or a libelous personal statement. Trauma on the inside can occur with a company downsizing, a dramatic employee exit, or a merging of companies. Regardless of where the disturbance begins, it can rock the boat of even the most stable and harmonious work environment. Often times, it is difficult to stay on course in these troubled times. That’s where the practice of organizational forgiveness can be a valuable way to stabilize the business.
Forgiveness is neutral and has a way of neutralizing volatile situations in which emotions run strong. Forgiveness does not ask us to give up our ethics or values, it is a virtuous means through which to give up the emotional charge that keeps the organization or individual upset.
When we incorporate forgiveness into business, it creates a more cooperative and productive environment. Take for example the story of a business in which an officer of the corporation had misappropriated funds. It was revealed by the media and created a public relations nightmare. Or a re-organization of a company happens and some people are let go. These are extremely difficult situations to handle from the inside of an organization. The emotions could become poisonous to the well being of the business. People start to dread coming to work and are highly guarded while there.
With an attitude of forgiveness, the people in the company were able to overcome highly charged aspects of this devastating circumstance and move on to determining how to proceed. The re-building of trust could begin on the inside and the outside. Now I am not saying that we should forgive and forget, necessarily. What I am saying is that if we can take all of that highly charged emotional energy that is pointed at the wrong-doer or difficult situation and apply it toward forgiving and re-building, it would be much more productive.
As an enlightened leader in your business, be it one person or hundreds, forgiveness is a great leadership skill to have in your organizational toolbox. It fosters and enables a supportive environment, creating a space in which even the most wrong actions can be addressed and not have it permanent cripple the company. When your organization can mitigate powerful emotions with the virtue of forgiveness, it makes for a more productive workplace.
The act of forgiveness is not grounded in the emotions or intellect. It is from the spirit. I know from personal experience that it is difficult to forgive without keeping some small corner of your heart where you think they were wrong and you were right but that happens when you try to find a rational reason upon which to base forgiving someone when there really isn’t any. If you would like to experiment with the technique of organizational forgiveness, think about any old grievances, resentments, guilt or anger, you have about your workplace and/or the people you work with and forgive them.
Additionally, you may want to stay aware and alert that you do not continue to accumulate new grievances, resentments, guilt or anger. Notice if you feel any differently going to work after doing forgiveness work.